I don’t know about yours, but my pre-baby body has packed up her bags and headed south.
My breasts are on permanent vacation, having finally given in after 22 months of to-ing and fro-ing between melons and macadamia nuts.
My skin is softer, stretchier, easier for tiny hands to grab hold of.
As for my lady bits, I’ll be honest…shall I?
*momentary pause whilst I weigh up truthfulness vs. self preservation*
…They are like a good old fashioned pub. A bit rough around the edges and not about to serve up anything fancy, but still a decent place for a visit. A firm favorite with the landlord, so i’m told.
My body, since becoming a mother, has changed.
…But so have I!
In so many INCREDIBLE ways.
In the celebratory spirit of Mothers Week, here is a hand picked collection of beautiful women sharing their honest thoughts about their toddler-chasing, cuddle-draping, ever-giving bodies.
I hope you enjoy reading their stories as much as I have.
“I’ve just become a mother at 18.. I did not manage to enjoy the pregnancy. You know those advertising mothers that caress their bellies smiling? Sometimes I felt very guilty about not enjoying it, but at the same time I always felt an intense and beautiful connection between us. I say without fear that I love the stretch marks, the responsibility, the breasts that hurt, the personal growth, the extra pounds, the dark under the eyes and so on …. These are my marks!” –Moara and Maya, from the birthmarks project.
“I don’t normally do stuff like this and have been hesitating whether to post or not. But since having my daughter my body has changed beyond recognition, my stomach is a lot bigger and covered in stretch marks, and my boobs have changed drastically (from breastfeeding) and are no longer perky like they once were. Having a baby is such a life changing experience as it is, but no one really talks about the changes in their bodies. We’re constantly presented with images of perfect post baby bodies, but in a reality this is rarely the case. I’ve finally been able to begin accepting my new body and appreciating what it has given me, my beautiful daughter. Plus nursing bras and granny pants are pretty comfortable!” – Paige from bluehairedhermit
” It’s hard being a confident woman, it’s even harder being a confident woman raising mini women teaching them to love themselves. My face is wonky, I struggle with a little extra meat on my bones, I’m covered in stretch marks and my boobs are less than pert. My skin is pale and blotchy, oh and i’m a giant (5’11”)…but my biggest hang up is my surgery scar. I have heard girls at the gym say ‘What was that?’, men on the street say ‘Did you see the state of her chest?’ and children full of concern ask ‘But what happened?’. The worst blow was when a wedding photographer told me what an amazing job he could do photoshopping it out… did he not realise that without the scar there would have been no wedding? Here I am bearing all of my insecurities because every scar tells a story of survival and I am a warrior woman.” – Amy from kittyandpip
“This is me. All 361112 of me. I’m so bored of hearing about weight, diets, cellulite, stretch marks, and wrinkles. January is full of all this ‘get a bikini body shite.’ If you want to lose some pounds that’s fine, do it. But don’t do it because you think you’ll be happier or more successful, or because the media says you should look a certain way. Don’t let the way you look hold you back from achieving anything but greatness. We only get one life and if we waste it worrying about how we look all the time, imagine the wasted opportunities?! Motherhood has definitely made me braver and more aware.” –Natalie, StyleMeSunday
“My heart aches looking at this. Where does that childlike acceptance of the body go? The way their hands are place on me, I feel unconditionally loved. In that absolute acceptance of me, I feel a powerful upwelling of emotion that lets me know I don’t have to be afraid. I am strong enough to raise these children.” –Gill, from the birthmarks project.